Eight phases of dating
But the bigger danger is that it does all click and both are so caught up in the greatness of it all that neither one wants to rock the boat and spoil the magic. That both partners hold back – you don’t bring up that he was late, or that she tends to dominate the dinner conversations even though it bothers you.Physical distance keeps the potential emotional conflict at bay: You bite your tongue and by the time the next weekend rolls around your irritation has receded.Here Kara loses her job or Sam's grandmother dies and he is devastated, or Chris has a medical crisis.The couple is challenged to respond as a unit – to be supportive about the job, to come or not to the funeral, to face the medical issues together -- all a testing of the strength of the relationship and each partner's ability to deal with crises and anxiety.She obsesses about him all day long, they text all through the day.
Or you have a lot in common but there is no sexual attraction; you try to shift the relationship to friend status.The emotional side is finding that you have a lot in common, that your views of the world are the same, that you share a sense of humor or like the same music.Running along this is finding in each other what you most need – someone who listens or someone who seems decisive; someone who is gentle or someone who is strong and confident. One obvious danger or downside is that you never get beyond one or two dates.Finally, this is the time that the couple starts to have serious conversations about the future.Here they talk about priorities, whether to have kids or not or how many, whether to focus on careers or whether a job is just a job and they rather raise chickens as a hobby.